We all want to have the night of our lives, have ridiculous memories, parties & war stories. But I also think most people actually just want to have someone they care about and can spend quality time with, like go hiking, bike-riding, experience new destinations & adventures, those really are the same versions of ‘the night of our lives’ except its living your life in far better quality.
Do you ever get to know yourself and who you really are, I don’t think so, but I do believe people come into your life to figure that out. Let people change you for the better, everyone serves a purpose in your life, but doesn’t necessarily mean they’ll stay.
I’m mentally and physically tired of being down (just a little down) so I’ve decided to be happy instead ♥ whatever my circumstances are or will be a person can only make the best with what the have in the moment.
I feel like such a geek wearing glasses but I really need them.
Lifes so short, you could go watch a batman movie and die. That’s the world we live in. Can’t things be simple by snapping your fingers and uncomplicate relationships. Family, friends or romantic. I wish it was that fucking simple.
Again I’ve been out of the loop. I wouldn’t exactly label myself as having a quarter life crisis but I would label myself as a little bit of a mess. This month of June, has been a rollercoaster. It brought about a break-up (we had nothing in common anyway – moving forward positively ♥), inking my skin (& regretting it straight afterwards – fucking learning to love it without a choice) making a valuable decision to move careers paths which will be far better for me long term & recklessly going out to ignore all these events. Positively, I’ve learnt so much about myself & my life in between, heres a few to note:
Never reject anybody in your life; good people bring out the best in you & bring happy moments that you will treasure for life. Bad people bring you experience, learning curves & make you realize which path you need to pursue to make your life even happier. So really, bad people are a fucking blessing. Who would’ve thought.
Once you make a decision, things somehow start falling into fucking place. Believe it. That’s just how it works. Indecisiveness gets you nowhere fast.
Very little is needed to bring happiness. My feet in the grass is fucking good enough for me. Living on a second floor apartment makes this happiness even more of a luxury to me.
Try. No matter what, try. No one can take away that you tried to do something, achieve something & got up & did something. Even if it doesn’t fucking work out. You’ve won a personal achievement & moved forward.
“I believe in second chances, but not a third.” I’ve read this quote so many times this month, I think someone is trying to guide me secretly - as I tend to be fucking stubborn, when it comes to second chances. I don’t give them. It’s a bad habit, it’s unfair & incredibly narrow-minded. However, half the fucking battle is won realising that I am changing this. 30 day challenge coming up! Happy me ♥
Sometimes you’ve got to take 3 steps back in order to make big steps forward. Frustrating, but its smarter to rather do things fucking properly the first time round instead.
Due to big events this weekend I’ve sadly learnt that big things you do not dramatically change your life, they do not give you the fucking answers, natural highs or sense of achievement that a person aims for. Small steps in the right direction everyday do. Everyday fucking day. ♥
i’m really struggling to write lately, i’m not sure why but here’s a few things ive learnt while i’ve been avoiding to do it.
you’ve got to have tact with people. i’ve recently experienced that many people do not have this quality. manners, respect & class are still very much in fashion in my life. i’ve also learnt that my personality is who i am but my attitude is based on how you treat me. okay then. thanks then. fucking bye then.
living & fucking learning. that’s what i’m busy doing. being in someone else shoes for a day makes you gain massive perspective on yourself. i feel like a part of my soul is brand new & developed so much personally. what a feeling!
nowadays its about developing a user-friendly & user-interface experience to involve & capture the consumer. what about a user-experience involving your real-time. time is so fucking precious you’ve got to do things now & maximize your free time to live the life you want to. take days off work (its really not going to stop without you), go on many weekends away, ride a horse, go on a boat, fly high in the sky. because that’s what you’ll remember one-day. breathing fresh air & basking in the sun watching the clouds go by is absolute bliss ♥ & perhaps with a beer in your hand.
we all have a strong history & story behind each & everyone of us. of course we do. however, i’ve learnt that this does not give anyone a free pass to treat people with disrespect because xyz has happened to them in their past.
throwing yourself into exercise of any kind feels incredible & it’s a perfect distraction. loves.
When it comes to personal branding in the digital age, Ellen DeGeneres comes to mind. Recently on her talk show she showed extremely embarrassing photos from several audience members’ Facebook pages. The chosen few were extremely good-natured, and received cameras in exchange for their nationally televised embarrassment. But this idea goes much further than their 15 minutes. If these Facebook photos are accessible to production assistants on The Ellen DeGeneres Show, they are accessible to your boss as well.
The idea of personal branding in the digital age can be convoluted or extremely simple. Some have a difficult time determining the best way to brand themselves on networks, such as LinkedIn, to receive the highest possible responses in terms of search. Or, some may be passive followers, currently inactive, off-line, hidden or with customized privacy settings.
Whether you like it or not, it’s time to get out there because the world is turning digital at an accelerating pace. Jobs are no longer just applied for on company websites, but via networks like LinkedIn and even Twitter.
backspace & delete /
It’s no longer the case that personal branding is solely considered a celebrity endeavor. Your branding ability is fluid, nothing is concrete when keys like ‘Delete’ and ‘Backspace’ are in your life. Personal branding is self-marketing and must be considered a necessary step. A strong personal brand has the ability to turn perceptions. You should make sure that what you put out digitally is representative of not only the job you currently have, but also the one that you hope to have in the future. And, if it’s not, figure out a better way to publicize yourself.
You should own your personal brand—don’t apologize for it, stand strongly behind it. Be a steward and ambassador for your own name. While many may not agree with some of Kate Moss’s choices, no one can discount the fact that she stood behind her brand, and as a result was supported by many industry leaders for acknowledging her mistakes and moving forward, rather than succumbing to the media.
from visibility to thought leadership /
With this visibility comes the necessity to become a thought leader and change agent. If your ideas are published out there, you’ll be able to capitalize on them by using the media to fit your own agenda—enhancing the marketing efforts for whatever brand you’re working on, whether it’s for your company, yourself or for the betterment of both.
Kate Benson is a founding member of Martens & Heads!. She has 15+ years of executive search expertise in retail, fashion and luxury for global iconic brands like LVMH and Prada, to start-ups. Benson’s experience within brands and in executive search gives her a keen understanding of client needs and unsurpassed access to industry talent. She is active in industry associations including: the Fashion Group International, Cosmetic Executive Women, and the Society for Human Resource Management.
You start a new job with a new company. There are two employees in similar positions. They have both been with the company for several years. One is clearly hard working. She is constantly busy, juggles numerous tasks successfully and often stays late to get work done. The other seems much more relaxed. Indeed, she is often sharing jokes with her colleagues! She does not appear to work very hard, finishes tasks seemingly too quickly and is usually one of the first to leave the office at the end of the day. Which one should you emulate if you wish to do well in the company?
The seemingly lazy one, of course. Both have been with the company for some years, so you can assume that both are doing their job well. More importantly, you can assume that the apparently lazy one has worked out how to do her job efficiently, allowing her to work in a more relaxed way and go home at a reasonable hour daily.
creatively seeking the easy way /
In my experience,this is something creative people are very good at, particularly if they work in organizations which do give them new creative challenges on a regular basis. They use their creative skills to find short cuts in performing regular tasks and improving the efficiency of their area of operations.
In truth,it is not just creative people who are lazy. Humans are programed to be lazy and this is a good thing. When our prehistoric ancestors were hunting and gathering, the less work expended to kill and skin a mammoth or to collect fruit, the better. Even today, it is sensible to ask why you should spend four hours performing a task that you can complete sufficiently well in an hour.
followers or thinkers /
At work, when a new employee is shown how to perform a task, she will normally continue to do it in the way she was taught. This is not surprising. Most of us are taught to follow instructions, especially when a superior at work or school demonstrates tells us to do so.
But the creative individual is always questioning things and considering alternatives. She cannot help it. That’s how the creative mind is wired. She will try performing the task in different ways. Of course there are risks involved. An alternative approach to performing a four-hour task could prove more complicated than expected—and eat up eight hours of her time. She may be reprimanded by her superior for not doing the task in the prescribed manner. Worse, her method might not work at all, forcing her to start all over again.
However, this is normal for the creative person. Her curiosity and desire to explore alternatives is stronger than her sense of following instructions. Over time, she will try out various ways of performing tasks and will soon find the most efficient methods.
lessons to be learned /
As I wrote initially,if you are new to a company, do not look to the workaholics for advice on how to do your job well. Look to the laziest people. They will almost surely be able to show you the most efficient way to do your work well.
If you are an employer, on the other hand, those apparently lazy people are probably your most creative thinkers. When you need people with ideas for improving products, services and processes, be sure to include them in the teams responsible for developing these ideas. Moreover, be sure also to allow them to perform on these teams as they do on their tasks: let them try out ideas, see how they work, dispose of failed ideas and try out new ideas. This is how the creative process works.
Jeffrey Baumgartner is the author of The Way of the Innovation Master and Report 103, creator of Jenni innovation process mgmt software & founder of jpb.com. Follow him on Twitter at @creativeJeffrey.